Wax lyrical on your dating site profile for greater exposure

The art of creating the perfect dating site profile takes time, patience, constant tweaking and hard work. Certainly for it to work in a way that attracts the type of person you want to get to know, on and off line, from your online dating experience, anyway. And it’s an aspect that many singles overlook in their desperation to be swiftly online and actively chatting in the forums.

But let me ask you this: Once you have started chatting to someone on the dating site forum, or perhaps even before, what do you do? You check out their profile to ensure this is the type of partner you could envision yourself with. Do you not think that the majority of the singles on your dating site do exactly the same before they open conversations with you? Of course they do.

The temptation for many singles who have not taken the time out to craft a dating site profile that they can simply cut and paste, after tweaking their base document to suit the mood on the dating site they’re joining, is to get straight into browsing without providing enough information about themselves that the other members can appraise.

But even that step may be one too soon, as singles rush like the Pamplona Bulls to check out the talent after final taking the plunge to start online dating. Before you upload any personal information about yourself, you have to create a user name, again something that is oft overlooked. But user names are important, even more so if using European dating sites, where as much weight is attributed to the written word, including the user id, as is the profile photograph.

There have been many studies looking into dating site names that do and don’t work, both in the northern and southern hemispheres. So choosing a name that will illicit responses is imperative; tying that name up with incidental data in your profile is an even better.

Julia Spira, she of much dating site renown, recently wrote of her experience choosing a user name from a song she’d heard on the radio; she then set the lead in to her profile as a query to anyone who clicked through in relation to the song from which she derived her dating site id.

The results were astounding. Even if people were not necessarily coming on to her for a date, it did inspire fans of the musician, someone who saw fit to change his name from Reg Dwight – that ought to tell you something about the power of choosing a suitable public moniker – the other dating site members were contacting her to answer the profile query. In fact, her inbox was full of winkers.

So the moral really is, choose a user name that reflects your personality but other members can also identify with and respond to. Pair that with a well-prepared profile, and you, too, can hope to be poked by a whole host of winkers, wanting to get to know you better.

Choosing the right dating site user name

We continue with your quest to get up and dating, at least to get online dating in time for Valentine’s Day, even if getting any physical action this late in the day may be pushing a little. But, there are plenty of free dating sites out there that allow you to sort and browse singles by location, such as the one on our home page at dating.org.uk, so you may well get lucky.

So, just in time for the weekend, we’ll conclude today with three articles in brief that follow on from choosing the right dating site and what type of dating site membership is right for you.

In order to keep this as short and sweet as possible, today’s posts will be introductions, an overview, if you will; there are other articles on here that go into each topic in more detail, whereby there’ll be a hyperlink to relevant content within dating.org.uk for you to expand on these insights.

Choosing the right user id for your dating site

Each and every member on your dating site will have a unique user id or user name, which keeps their sign-in unique and allows you to find them and know who you’re getting mail from. You, likewise, have to choose your matchmaking moniker.

There is nothing inherently wrong with using your own name, but for security’s sake, you are strongly advised not to. If someone hacks the server of the dating site and gets hold of sections of information, you do not want to give them the last piece of the jigsaw by offering your real name on a plate. Also, if you have an abstract real name and you want to keep your dating site usage personal, i.e. not let anyone at work in on your secret, it is best to keep your real name out of the public domain as much as is humanely possible.

Also, there are some names that just do not work on dating sites, proven beyond doubt, in both hemispheres. In Europe, eDarling.de found that Dennis, Kevin, Chantal and Celina’s weren’t having their profiles browsed or e-mails opened as often and in New Zealand, Barry, Jacqueline and Angela came in for the same treatment on findsomeone.

Funny, as in subtle or witty, work quite well if you’re thinking of making up your user name; whereas funny as in corny (Ivor Biggun, for example) just does not, relating a childish sense of humour and that you’re not taking this dating lark altogether seriously. And those that lean towards smut, such as NineInchNigel will be given short shrift, likewise.

Not so much on the UK dating scene, but certainly in Europe, your name carries a lot of weight, as do the words in your profile. In the UK, the emphasis of your picture is relied on heavily and promoted as such on dating sites, whereas elsewhere its the words in your profile that pack the biggest punch.

More about your photo, up next.