Well do you love me, too?

Does your man still love you, or is it time to hit the world of online dating to see if you can find love hidden away on the web’s thousands of dating site facilities?

Following on from yesterdays article, where we asked about love and quality time, we conclude with the bedroom test to see if your man still retains his ardour or whether your relationship’s all become a bit of a flop.

Let’s get physical

And the ultimate test – how is he performing in the bedroom?

Does he put the time and effort in when you’re making love for the interaction to be about the two of you? Does he only come on to you after his couple of beers have turned into several and Stella Artois is driving his ardour?

Or even outside of the bedroom, do you feel secure when he holds you, or do you only get hugs when he needs to feel warmth and affection?

When written in black and white, these sentiments seem obvious. But they are so hard to face that many women just carry on, regardless.

Don’t be that woman. We all need to feel loved – it is one of our key motivators to stave off depression and keep ourselves upbeat in our daily lives.

If this is you, or you are looking across thousands of dating site profiles to see if you can find men who exhibit traits of personality that entrust you to them to provide you with the necessary love you crave, put these (potential) lovers to the test before you go on a date with them, to see if they are rue to their word or just all mouth and no trousers.

You know what you’re looking for – devise a few questions to truly examine your existing man and see if the love is still there, but just buried by an unassociated issue that you can both deal with to eradicate and let your love flow. Or, be true to yourself if the answers are negative, what you’ve grown to expect, and it really is time to take your head out of the sand, admit that you’re going nowhere and try to find yourself a man, in real life or test the water on a dating site, and start afresh.

There are literally thousands, nay millions, of men waiting to give love a good home for the right woman on UK dating sites and right around the world. Or, if you don’t want to give up just yet, our next article will be on getting your man and keeping him, after the imminent festivities.

Merry Christmas and here’s to a properous New Year, with the right man in tow, of course!
And thank you, all the readers, for getting us on page one of Google – ya-hey! We love you – there’s more to come in 2012 – dating.org.uk will rock your dating world, next year!

Well do you love me?

When you’ve been married for some time, some of the magic can fizzle and die. Life takes over and the little signs of affection that once were the portal to passion have become platitudes.

This can be true when you first start out dating, too. If that spark looks like flickering out early on, if football always comes first, or if he prefers a game of darts down the local to a quiet night in ‘on a promise’ with all the trimmings, you have to ask yourself: does he still love me?

Many women will adopt the ostrich theory: if they sense, on a subconscious level, that things ain’t what they used to be, they bury their heads in the sand rather than approach the issue head on.

This may keep the relationship alive in an literal sense, but does it take you back to when you first started dating, when you’d get butterflies just thinking about going to meet him?

Doubtful, but here are three tests you can apply to see if that lost love can be rekindled into the fiery passion you had on those first intimate dates.

What’s love got to do with it?

How often do you hear those three little words, other than when you go out of your way to fetch a pack of beer ready for the game or when you do that ‘special thing’ he likes so much when the lights go out?

Is he afraid to profess his love in public or does he supress his feelings when you’re out together? Or when you’re alone or on the phone to each other, how often does he actually finish the conversation with the phrase, “I love you“, not just a quick ‘love you’ and be on his way.

Time for action

How much do you see of your man?

When he says he’s stopping off for a couple of beers after a work, is he true to his word, or do those two stretch to three and four, neglecting anything you may have prepared for tea or other responsibilities that allow you your free time?

And how often does he get ‘held up’ at work when he knows you’ve made special arrangements, maybe even organised a date to galvanise what you have and try and add a bit more sheen to your waning relationship, and are waiting for him to be home on time, for a change?

We’ll leave you to ponder those; boxing day, we take this love-test into the bedroom…