Keep in touch with yourself

In the part three of this mini-series for online dating newbies, we’d like to underline the importance of communication – not just with other members, but keeping your information fresh and relevant so that your dating profile reflects the real you at all times.

Life changes and, as is true with anyone who wants to get more from life, we all look to improve our circumstances.

Obviously, as you’re perusing dating sites, your love life is one aspect that you’ve identified as an area that ‘could do better’.

But if academically, socially or, perhaps more importantly for this exercise, your career can move through a few gears, let the world know about it.

Attract a better class of correspondent

There are millions of dating site members across the world – some sites on their own have in excess of seven-figure sign-ups. You need to make yourself stand out from this crowd and attract the partner you deserve.

Your cause will be aided no end by matchmaking sites who pair singles based upon their looks, personality and achievements. If you are promoted at work, let the whole dating site community in on your good news; the more positive you can be – in your outlook as well as your profile – the more chance you have of enticing a better class of correspondent.

You will attract ‘hopefuls’ and ‘spammers’

As you progress and get into the world of online dating (it is very addictive) and your status and the level of trust others place in you grows, you will get messages from members who, not to put too fine a point on it, are several leagues below you or just blitzing members with an e-mail template.

Always remember that they may be where you were when you first started your illustrious dating career. They may not have had the benefit of a ‘how-to’ guide like this to help them get that first step on the ladder. Please, feel free to direct them here, if it’s apparent they’re dating site newbies.

Remember to remain courteous at all times and do not just ignore their advances (unless, in the unlikely event that you have thousands to answer – I say unlikely as most dating sites will impose a limit if they see your inbox getting too full). Here, you can draft a pre-written template to respond to them, but make it sincere and polite. Something along the lines of: “It’s great that you’ve taken the time to get in touch, but, having browsed your profile, you’re not really what I have in mind for a partner, right now.”

Of course, the other time you don’t want to be contacted – by anyone – is if you think you’ve cracked it and found your perfect partner and it’s time to take your profile down.

This mini-series will conclude with an article to help you decide if it’s time to leave the world of online dating behind, or not.

Does your dating profile bite?

Dating survey provides profile hints you can’t ig-gnaw

What do you consider to be your best feature? And how do you portray that to the masses viewing your dating site profile?

Eagerly awaited survey results from one of the leading global dating sites have now been published revealing what over 30,000 of its members regard as key aspects, and timewasters, when it comes to getting your dating profile ‘just so’.

It can be agonising, getting your profile to mirror you in a way that appeals to would be online dating partners, especially if it’s the first time you’ve had a craic at it. You’ve accepted the invitation to ‘browse your matches for free’, drank in every word dripping from the glitzy, well crafted profiles that, to borrow a one-liner from Sid Waddell (get well, soon, son!), have your “eyes bulging like the belly of a hungry chaffinch” and now you have to spin a piece of artistry to entice them to start, at the very least, discourse in an online relationship.

So what do you include, leave out and, let’s face it, make up to get that snowboarding buff young fellow from Newquay to even acknowledge that you exist, tucked up in the North of England nearby the afore-mentioned legend of darts commentary?

The results are in from the dating site community, and, in no particular order, are as follows:
A great profile picture is not as important as you may think, which vindicates the information in our earlier article ‘Pretty as your picture’ from earlier in the week, with only 4 out of 10 men stating that it’s the first thing they look for and 5 out of 10 women saying the same.

What is true of your chosen portfolio portrait again may not be so obvious to the layman.  For men, the most off-putting aspect of a lady’s dating site profile picture was one that looked as if it had been taken in a studio, specifically for the purpose of heading up their profile. Not only does such a photo look contrived, but it does not let any real personality shine through.

The women’s biggest chagrin was bad teeth, with 4 out of 10 citing that as their biggest turn off.  And both sexes agree that using a photo that has obviously had an ex chopped out of it is a definite no-no!

Location was another key factor when considering initiating an online relationship. For the thirty-somethings and above, approximately 8 out of 10 both male and female dating site members ruled out travelling over any great distance to build an off-screen relationship.

Another difference between the age-ranges was chat-up lines. If you’re targeting a potential partner who’s eligible for club 18-30, then 3 out of 10 of them will appreciate a classic, like ‘If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?’, whereas anyone who’s been around a little longer will not be impressed if that’s your opening line.

So, in summary, guys, make sure you get those choppers checked regularly; gals, look natural to attract more suitors.

For the more mature dating crowd, drop the punch line and keep it local; for the younger singles looking for love online, a cheesy chat up line will have them coming from far and wide!

Happy hunting, folks – keep it real!