Be careful out there – you may meet that special ‘someone’

In the second of two articles today looking at ‘innocent’ false dating site profiles, we hear a tale of woe from both sides of the dating argument.

This one’s all a bit six of one and half a dozen of the other and is a little more far out and, well, scary than today’s other article. Especially as the story originates from a woman’s blog and she asks: who’s protecting the men from the psychotic women out there?, some of whom she berates and classifies as ‘bunny boilers‘ of Fatal Attraction fame.

No, I’m getting ahead of myself, here. First and foremost, the blogger in question admitted that she had conducted an experiment whereby she’d created fake dating site profiles with the sole intention of extracting information out of men to see how easily she could get their phone numbers, personal e-addresses, where they lived, etc. Apparently, within 2-3 communiqués, the alpha male relinquishes this data without too much of a fuss.

Then, said blogger affirms that she’s safe, but knows of ‘someone’ (I get the impression we’re onto another Chinese dating experience like “J” suffered, here) who was perhaps a few nuts short of a safe hub cap.

To cut a long story short, this ‘someone’ was hit upon rather rapidly after signing up to a dating site by a single male to whom she gave the pseudonym Marc – really? I have a very strong suspicion this was the gentleman’s real name.

When ‘someone’ told ‘Marc’ things were moving too quickly for her liking, ‘Marc’ told ‘someone’ to “go have sex with herself using a rather large implement” – well, not exactly that, but you can work the rest out. To whit, ‘someone’ took umbrage and proceeded to post multiple profiles of ‘Marc’ – coincidentally another dating site male who’d given up his information within the first few correspondences (you can see the comparisons, can’t you?), on gay porn sites, whereby his profile suggested that he was up for a bit of guy-on-guy action.

His name, home phone number, photograph – everything but his home address (which the blogger claimed this ‘someone’ she knew had possession of, but did nothing with, thankfully for ‘Marc’) went on these gay dating sites, claiming he was up for it. The poor guy even had his e-mail signed up to a load of spam sites and even suffered the indignity of his profile being posted on a site warning other women not to date certain men they’d met online dating.

The blogger’s moral – protect yourself at all costs. ‘Marc’ – if you’re reading this and you’ve got any pets that would fit nicely in a stew-pot, get your locks changed, bud. Take this woman’s advice and weed out the weirdos; you know where to start, methinks.

It’s in his sniff

Will a woman ever meet their dream man? In fact, does such a being exist and are you one of the lucky ladies out there to have met him, either on your dating site, at work or by introduction through a third party? And, more importantly, does the bubble burst when the dream-lover steps out of the cloud or is he the angel you always hoped you were destined for?

So many questions, but all worth asking. Especially as it has come to light that, even though the fairer sex trawl dating profile after dating profile on both paid and free dating sites alike, looking for the photo of their dream boat, that fella in your dreams represents the missing emotional link you yearn, yet are beginning to develop with an alpha male, rather than any physical attraction or need you may think you have. Although that’s not to say the physical craving isn’t intensified by this chemical courtship. Mmm, definitely one to ‘discuss:‘.

This is how the theory goes….

…you’re in the office at work, and there’s a guy who emits chemical signals, willy-nilly; you may not even be aware your feminine receptors are picking them up, but your brain is forming an attraction to him. This is something that not even the chemistry-type dating sites can put into their algorithms for you over the Internet.

It is then your psyche that is falling in love with this chappie, i.e. the angel who later appears in your dreams; he probably looks nothing like the guy at work’s profile, but the dream man is your brain’s interpretation of your true chemical match. The more your angel appeals to you romantically, the stronger the natural connection between your two personalities and sub-conscious physical make-up to suggest you’d be a successful couple.

The sad thing is, unless you can fine-tune your receptors or take note of any subtle emotional shift you feel when you’re in a man’s presence, you may never know who this perfect match for you is. If you’re having these types of dreams, please don’t go around the office tomorrow sniffing every man who comes near you – if your dream man sees you doing this, you may never get to grips with the physical aspect of dating.

To confuse the issue, it is perceived that the reaction of a man’s inherent chemicals with his choice of cologne may produce even stronger results than either he or his unwitting victim pick up on in a physical sense. Yet his psyche also gets stronger as it comes into the proximity and connects with the female chemicals that have the same affect on him, making the combined effect, to the naked eye at least, even more powerful.

Dating sites can offer a lot of ways for you to meet ‘the one’, but until you get up close and personal and let your bodies own receptors do their bit, the relationship could be missing something so corporeal, it will never fulfil the part of you that reacts to pure, base chemistry. It has been suggested that this could be the reason why there are so many affairs at work and that almost four out of ten US citizens married in the last five years met either at work or back in school.

If you’re looking for 100% satisfaction, close your eyes and let nature pick that man of your dreams for you. Psyche!