What do you do when you get to the supermarket and they don’t have the brand of butter you were looking for? You need to make sandwiches for the party and you’ve been to all of the other supermarkets; this one was your last hope. You’ve got to have something. What do you do? Yep, you pick up one that might get you out of a scrape tonight, you just hope people appreciate the filling and not the butter that’s on the bread.
What the bloody hell has this got to do with online dating? Well, according to one recent study by five top scientists in North America, this is the mentality sweeping dating sites and singles the world over.
The outline of the study can be found in our article: Do dating site algorithms work or just string us along?
Shock, horror, the algorithm’s not found what you’re looking for but brought up several choices on ice on the shelf where your butter should be, but you just know whichever of the alternatives you plump for, it won’t spread with as much satisfaction as the brand you’d hoped to pick up. Well, eggs-zactly.
The full report is yet to be released but an essence of what the results will smell like has been issued on the website from whence this snippet came. The study itself focuses on how dating in the real world differs from its online cousin, concentrating on definitive areas, including accessibility of potential partners, levels of communication and the interaction that leads to and, the hot potato, the matchmaking service ‘based on scientific algorithms‘ the dating sites purport to utilise.
More is less
Initial reports suggest that, although there is a whole lot more choice via the portal of online dating, that doesn’t guarantee ‘superiority’. Far from it, in fact.
Going back to the butter metaphor, the vast array of individuals looking to fall in love online is leading other singles to ‘brand’ them, comparing vast swathes of profiles and, if ‘the one’ doesn’t jump off the shelf, those browsing are unprepared to commit to any of the others.
Another aspect, harking back to the 90% fib about themselves in their online dating profile, is that a partner with whom the single has been chatting to for sometime rarely lives up to their ‘persona’ in real life, and the expectation levels from communicating via a dating site often fall flat what the date comes to fruition in the flesh.
The scientists do hold some hope for the science behind Internet dating, however, but it will take 100% honesty from members and webmasters, alike. Psychology has as much to do with appreciation of a partner as physical attraction, that much is known. Providing that all parties enter and deliver true information from being ‘guided by rigorous psychological science’, then finding ‘the one’ may not be a figment of the i-marg-ination, butter very real prospect.
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